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(and feel free to comment! My older posts are certainly no less relevant to the burning concerns of the day.)

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

I Never Want To Be With Anyone Who Can't Tell Me The Difference Between A Crocodile And An Alligator

I never want to be with anyone who can't tell me the difference between a crocodile and an alligator!

First, because it's inexcusably ignorant. A person should take an interest in the wider world and her surroundings, and crocodiles and alligators are among the oldest creatures on earth!

Second, because I myself never could keep it straight, all my life and I have been very blessed to find love with women who could tell me which was which. I think I deserve a woman of that caliber. I don't want to settle for less than that.

"At First, Lonely" by Tanya Davis



This is so blessed and sweet. Her voice is as soothing, thoughtful and poignant as Linus from Peanuts.

Monday, November 28, 2011

I have to say,

I have to say, I'm kind of in a funk, here.

I think it's because I'm so far behind on my poems. 303 poems for 2011. 33 days left to get to 365.

You know what, actually that's kind of cake! What am I whining about? I could write ten poems tonight, if I wanted to. Hell.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Carry On, Carry On

We must carry on. If we dropped it, it would go off!

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Top H Reasons People Are Fucking Around Online

Top H Reasons People Are Fucking Around Online

People who are fucking around online, wasting a ton of time online doing things online, are doing so for a reason. There is some need that is not being met, and they are driven to seek a substitute or a supplement for it online. In most cases, they are doing so for one of the following Top H Reasons People Are Fucking Around Online:

H. Companionship. They lack a real heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul companion - or the companion they have in close, daily, physical-proximity life isn't meeting their needs for closeness, frequency, or proximity.

G. Socializing. Their daily/physical proximity network of friends, acquaintances, fun-time pals, hangers-on and hanger-outers is not meeting some need they have, in that "socializing" slot in the psyche (or - as seems increasingly likely from the prevalence of science-y jargon in our society - in that set of "socializing" brain receptors, in the brain itself). So they seek for it online. You could call this need "Community," too. Who cares!

F. Identity. The daily identity they put forth to others they run into does not meet some need they have, to come across some way. So they seek that online. They may experiment with different self-presentations, trying to show a different side that is hard for them to get across "IRL" ("In Real Life" - a technical/jargon term among onliners, for the non-online portion of their lives). Sometimes it is just a case of the medium, freeing them to be more free. They seek for that. They seek it online. Others (disturbingly) seek online for an identity they can use to fool others - in some cases, by playing some sick game.

E. Sex. Some aspect of their close, daily, physical-proximity "IRL" sex life doesn't measure up to what they need. So they go seeking for it. Seeking for sex, online (some call this "online sex," but research suggests that rather than a type of sexual intercourse, it in actuality some form of masturbation - customarily with a communications media assisted visual, audio, or audiovisual aid).

D. Food. Unable to find food in their daily life, they are forced to forage for food online.

C. You know what? That really about covers it. I'm not sure I can come up with "B" more of these.
B.
A.
Please note, those who go online for reason "D" may become increasingly desperate, and possibly even dangerous, over time - although they will progressively weaken until eventually, they present no threat.

Oh shoot! I forgot the most obvious one!

A. Purpose. Specifically, whether it is their "IRL" "life" or their "IRL" "job," they find themselves lacking in whatever quality would otherwise fill their time up with purpose, in a fulfilling way. In a satisfying way. They lack that. So they go online. To fuck around, basically. I mean, let's be honest. That's what we're talking about here. People fuck around online.
But they do it for a reason.

Actual Exchanges at Work

Person A: "Well, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger."
Person B: "Yep, I'm a half-dead hercules."

Wednesday, November 09, 2011

What's The Matter Don't You Trust Me?

The best thing about actually being trustworthy is, it doesn't matter whether someone "would repeat" something. YOU aren't going to repeat it! You never have to worry whether they would.

Once you've made sure you can be trusted, trusting others is a breeze.

Tuesday, November 08, 2011

Dream Question #1. Pay Close Attention.

Let's say you wake up from a weird dream you can't remember, to find you are in a safe, strange house.

You don't know whose house it is, but you do know for sure it is TOTALLY SAFE. Like, maybe you can remember in the back of your mind that it's the house for a reality show your friend was in, and they get to stay there 'til the end of the month, even though the show's done shooting, and you were invited over. Plus, you woke up in the front room (you slept on the couch) and the door is wide open (screen door latched) and the windows have light streaming in and people passing by in the city street outside (it's like, a townhouse).

Anyway, that's too much background. It has nothing to do with the premise of the question! The point is, somebody has made a pizza for you, left it on a nearby table - it is hot, and smells delicious. And there is a note by it that says it's for you. The pizza is definitely intended for you. But as you look at it, you see that the pizza is topped with playing cards. And seeing that suddenly triggers your memory of what your dream was!

What was the dream?

Monday, November 07, 2011

Plato said, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

Well, not those exact words. He was probably speaking in Greek.

Anyway, I always kind of assumed he meant everyone I meet is fighting a hard battle against me. That was my interpretation. Because otherwise, why would everyone I meet coincidentally be in on this same battle? A bit thin if you ask me!

So anyway, I try to be kind. Those people are up against some pretty dismal odds.

Sunday, November 06, 2011

Gender Identity!! YES!!

Gender identity is cool as fuck. I'm in Santa Cruz, so I've noticed a lot people around who seem to have a stake in that whole deal. I for one support it! I couldn't be more pleased! For me it's not a matter of tolerance, nor even of acceptance - but a matter for CELEBRATION! Celebrate the gender identity you've chosen to project! Or don't! Your choice!

I just wanted to make that clear. When I ask "is that a guy?" - that's just an honest question about somebody I'm not sure I'm thinking the right way about - the way they'd want me to think, about the identity they've choosen for his or her self, depending! It's not any wish to thrust individuals into rigidly-assigned roles, based on some societal dictate from ages back. FUCK THAT NOISE.

I do admit though. I'm kind of into identifiable females. It's a kink thing, arguably. Arguably?

Honestly, I don't even really mind how people want to be perceived, as long as they do a competent job putting it across. Gender identity's not that hard. If it's really an important thing for anybody? Just buy into a stereotype or two, and use what you've got to present a certain front. WHO CARES. Or maybe what you're after is to confront those divisions, to deliberately place yourself so that people can't place you one way or the other! Nothing wrong with that. That's what you're after, in that case. If that's what you're after and you expect the result you get, then that's a strong choice, if that's your choice!

And if so, good job.