True love means being willing to die for the other person.
True love means putting the other person's needs ahead of my own (if they do the same, it evens out, but true love doesn't require that).
These are not conditions. This is simply how true love makes me feel. Once again I am advocating for what love means. Others have their own ideas.
Unconditional love means you don't put conditions on the other person. Unconditional love does not mean a blanket refusal of all obligations upon one's self, as if saying "I ain't gotta do shit for you!" were some high statement of love's purpose.
True love does not mean unconditional love. True love doesn't even put that condition on. "You are not allowed to have conditions" is one hell of a condition. But the fact is, true love does have conditions. It must. There are ways a person can treat you and things they can do that must legitimately call into question whether you can be in a love relationship, with a person who does such things. This is not being unconditional, but it is being responsible.
True love does not mean "forever" (and for you "unconditional lovers" out there - that too would be one hell of a condition!). True love doesn't always last. Sometimes the way a person feels does change. Other times, the other person may not feel as the one person does.
This is why the single most important thing, for two people who want to be in love together, is to talk about it and agree on what the hell that's supposed to mean. Because if they haven't done that - they're not in love together. They've got two separate loves, and a series of fights where their loves don't overlap.
True love means putting the other person's needs ahead of my own (if they do the same, it evens out, but true love doesn't require that).
These are not conditions. This is simply how true love makes me feel. Once again I am advocating for what love means. Others have their own ideas.
Unconditional love means you don't put conditions on the other person. Unconditional love does not mean a blanket refusal of all obligations upon one's self, as if saying "I ain't gotta do shit for you!" were some high statement of love's purpose.
True love does not mean unconditional love. True love doesn't even put that condition on. "You are not allowed to have conditions" is one hell of a condition. But the fact is, true love does have conditions. It must. There are ways a person can treat you and things they can do that must legitimately call into question whether you can be in a love relationship, with a person who does such things. This is not being unconditional, but it is being responsible.
True love does not mean "forever" (and for you "unconditional lovers" out there - that too would be one hell of a condition!). True love doesn't always last. Sometimes the way a person feels does change. Other times, the other person may not feel as the one person does.
This is why the single most important thing, for two people who want to be in love together, is to talk about it and agree on what the hell that's supposed to mean. Because if they haven't done that - they're not in love together. They've got two separate loves, and a series of fights where their loves don't overlap.
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