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Sunday, February 10, 2013

False Strength Vs. Everything Else

Why give people power? I've found anyway that when I respond from false strength, false force, it gives the other person power, and ruins mine.

But what is false strength? And where does true strength come from? Hey, it's easy to see and feel that difference.

False strength, false force:

Your own innate strength. Your force of person, personality, self or sinew.

True strength, true force proceeds from -

1. Where your feet are planted. Position, stance.

2. And what's in your hands. Fact, equipment.

When you exert your own innate strength and force absent 1 and 2, everybody sees you for what you are: bully, tyrant, weakling, wrongling. Fair game, and easily destroyed. Two to five right people can topple and punitively rape any sonofabitch weak wrong tyrant bully as required, if only good people combine on common cause.

Which we're increasingly eager to do, versus bullies. So watch yourself! Better yet, check your stance. See where your strength is planted.

Picture yourself with position and stance. Picture yourself with something real in your hands, instead of hysterically overcompensating for "got nothing" - instead of flailing and striking out in the wrong, to prove how strong you are. Instead of putting forth that false strength, picture yourself - equipped, and with stance.

Why, all you'd have to do is stand there, practically. And maybe smile. Or maybe scowl.

Because people see what's real, because it's in their world too - not only in yours. In case you didn't know, that's a definition of reality.

And in that position, equipped with real stance and fact, if you ever had to exert your innate strength - with all of that in your hand, and on your side? People will be going flying.

And they'll get up and dust off, and thank you after. For going so easy on them, when you had all that strength.

Now don't giggle when they say that! They don't need to know where your strength comes from.


JMH said...

This seems especially applicable to baseball.

Jen said...

Hm. I dunno. I have definitely seen cases where someone was right, but were unable to put their point acrosss because they lacked the presence, the personality. This is especially common when we run afoul of customer service.

dogimo said...

@JMH - I'll buy that! In fact, I'll take it.

@Jen - How were you able to know they were right? You, at least, saw the true strength -of their point - even though their own, false, strength proved itself the failing. You at least saw where their strength was.

It is never in ourselves that we are right. It is only in so far as we are in the right. A false surge of force can win many points, but what wins in the end?

Using the sport analogy, when our own strength proves itself false where our point was true, and should have won through - I guess that's what the rest of the team is for. To back you up, on what should have worked for you, maybe - on what is, at any rate, the true winning strategy. Or the crowd, if the ump blows the call, can at least let him know it - in those cases where we can see a person was in the right, yet their own strength failed to persuade. Those who can see that right can add their efforts, or failing that, their voice.

dogimo said...

Although I guess where customer service comes in, there's this weird, twisted view of absolutist, "objective" right - some theory that it is always the customer who is?

I've never understood that model, but if they think they're right about that, I'm not buying anything else they're selling.

Hey! Which makes me "not the customer!" How neat. I guess their system has hidden consistencies built-in.