Gender identity is cool as fuck. I'm in Santa Cruz, so I've noticed a lot people around who seem to have a stake in that whole deal. I for one support it! I couldn't be more pleased! For me it's not a matter of tolerance, nor even of acceptance - but a matter for CELEBRATION! Celebrate the gender identity you've chosen to project! Or don't! Your choice!
I just wanted to make that clear. When I ask "is that a guy?" - that's just an honest question about somebody I'm not sure I'm thinking the right way about - the way they'd want me to think, about the identity they've choosen for his or her self, depending! It's not any wish to thrust individuals into rigidly-assigned roles, based on some societal dictate from ages back. FUCK THAT NOISE.
I do admit though. I'm kind of into identifiable females. It's a kink thing, arguably. Arguably?
Honestly, I don't even really mind how people want to be perceived, as long as they do a competent job putting it across. Gender identity's not that hard. If it's really an important thing for anybody? Just buy into a stereotype or two, and use what you've got to present a certain front. WHO CARES. Or maybe what you're after is to confront those divisions, to deliberately place yourself so that people can't place you one way or the other! Nothing wrong with that. That's what you're after, in that case. If that's what you're after and you expect the result you get, then that's a strong choice, if that's your choice!
And if so, good job.