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EDIT: final long-after afterthought (8/10/10). She's still dogging me (I've given up hoping she'll stop) but I've been mostly successfully ignoring her. But I just wanted to mention re: the question of "why I would save" e-mails. #1 I'm lazy, #2 hotmail's storage capacity appears to be infinite, and #3 the police recommended it. Even if they hadn't, though, the lazy alone is enough. I still have every e-mail sent to that address - what's the point spending hours going through and messing with old e-mails in a 95% empty inbox? There's just too much room, it seems like the room is infinite. I guess it's possible there are some people who do get that obsessive about tidying electronic space, but to me, what a weird idea that is.
EDIT: final long-after afterthought (8/10/10). She's still dogging me (I've given up hoping she'll stop) but I've been mostly successfully ignoring her. But I just wanted to mention re: the question of "why I would save" e-mails. #1 I'm lazy, #2 hotmail's storage capacity appears to be infinite, and #3 the police recommended it. Even if they hadn't, though, the lazy alone is enough. I still have every e-mail sent to that address - what's the point spending hours going through and messing with old e-mails in a 95% empty inbox? There's just too much room, it seems like the room is infinite. I guess it's possible there are some people who do get that obsessive about tidying electronic space, but to me, what a weird idea that is.
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Angry that I made my blog private, Joe?
Oh my God THANK GOD! I suggested that to you as a solution months ago!
Jamie, I'd never have known if you hadn't told me.
Can I ask you, does this mean you'll LEAVE ME ALONE AND STOP CONTACTING ME PLEASE?
Wow.
I wasn't expecting much response on this one but THANK GOD I posted it! Wow.
What a quick turnaround on that.
Hey, I for one am glad I won't have to hear this bullshit from you about page views anymore.
Oh, sorry, Jul weighed in...you lose. Surprised?
Har har! Jamie, you're the one who calls page views harassment. I'm sure you explained it to her framed in your unique way.
I've tried not to make you look bad to others right along the line, and will continue to do so. I'm not running all over the place bad-mouthing you like you are me. All I want is for you to leave me alone.
Bored, Joe??? Conversing with your stalker? Let's see...I'm crazy but you're the one who posts this trash & talks to me continually afterward? That is taking charity too far, my friend, You're too kind. Really. One would think you like getting a response. Did you by chance wet the bed as child? Light fires? Do you strike up conversations with random women? Do you send them poetry? "For them but not necessarily about them?" Or lyrics? Do you call & sing to them...on condition of not being recorded??? TOO FUNNY, THAT WAS! Do you tell these women you love them?
You're right. One of us is a stalker. Can you guess which one?
Jamie, we've been through this a gajillion times. I've got the e-mails where you told me everything in my blog was to seduce you, where you asked me and asked me to call you, where I said I wasn't going to call unless it was to straighten shit out that I wasn't!
Yeah I called you once. Poetry, I write up to dozens of poems a day when I'm on a roll (none of them much good, but the point is: poetry's cheap). Songs? I sing to people all the time.
The people who I can't TRUST, I make a big deal about the not recording it thing.
Hint hint.
Recall please: right after you reverted once again to your obsession/accusation cycle, I immediately knew you lied about everything you said you were clear on! And I posted the song lyrics because I figured you lied about everything, and I wanted it out there public as mine. You remember your reaction to that?
Stalkers don't run from their targets. They PURSUE. I'm the one trying to get he hell away from you. You push, you pursue.
It's kind of clear.
Are we done here? Will you stop contacting me please?
I just wish you could please just not contact me anymore. Kind of sucks that you refuse to leave me alone.
I don't want ANY power over you.
OK, fair's fair, I'll post your next comment and that'll be that for that. Not much point in continuing that I can see - this is all stuff you've said. All stuff I've said. Ad infinitum. Infinitum / nauseam...it's a fine line.
But I'll give you last say.
Hey, I know I said I'd give you last word, but I had an idea you might like.
If you say it's OK, I will bundle every single e-mail you ever sent me and every one I ever sent you into a .rar file and post it on the web for anyone to download. Maybe that'd take the guesswork out of it for some of your misled friends?
There's no shame in my game. I know how I'll come off: an idiot, a moron for wasting so much time trying to talk you down from your delusions about the "game" I was playing.
I also know how you'll come off. And so do you.
Care to authorize that? I'd need to figure out how to do it, but I know it's doable.
I hasten to add, especially you said at one point you'd taken all MY e-mails and given them to a relative to do a thesis on - I would never, ever do this if you didn't say it was OK. I'm not some kind of a scumbag. But again, there's really nothing bad in there as far as I'm concerned.
I'm sorry. I must have missed this. I didn't intend to be rude. Seriously.
Look, Joe. I know what those emails say. I know how I will look. I think the questions are: Why did you save them in the first place if I traumatized and terrorized you and why would you want to make them public? To hurt me, obviously. That is the only reason. Which kinda proves my point. You are a psychopath who gets his kicks from getting a rise out of people...good or bad, you just need the attention.
No, I don't give you permission. Normal people don't threaten to publish private conversations. I never divulged your private emails nor did I blog on your life as you chose to on mine. I made the mistake of trusting you. I admit it. I have to live with that.
But just the fact that you continue to harass and threaten me says who you really are. You're sick, Joe.
I may have been wrong but I'm not sick.
And, don't try to make an excuse for this by referring to me BS'ing you. You know the truth. It's there in the thread.
This is ugly, Joe. Those are private. YOU KNOW I TRUSTED YOU. I can't believe you would even consider something so cruel. But I don't know why I'm surprised. I guess this is what you are. A blackmailer. You turn my stomach, dog.
I loved you as a friend. My mistake.
Just please leave me alone. The e-mails you're sending me are piling up, unread. Can you stop submitting comments please too, and at least I won't have to see your crap.
When I thought the friendship was consensual - i.e., I had the option to ask you "leave me alone" - for the first tiny period of time when it WAS a friendship, I loved you as a friend too. Look what you've done with that, taken it and run amok.
Jerk: YOU told me point-blank that you'd given all of my e-mails to some relative for their abnormal psychology thesis. Every nasty, threatening thing you say to me is a joke. Yet in the above, I simply offer to make the whole picture plain to anyone who has a doubt as to my conduct in the face of your behavior. I very clearly state and emphasize I would never do it without your consent. This, you call blackmail.
Someone looking at your blog, not commenting, not e-mailing you, you call harassment.
You e-mailing me hundreds of unwanted, unasked messages with really vile content - this, you call...grace.
Quit pounding the nails in alright? Your work's finished.