This post is a Pt.3. There was also a Pt.2. Plus the Pt.1 of course. Maybe click straight through to Pt.1 first.
This question is such a clear and simple instrument. Yet it is flexible, adaptable! With certain minor adjustments, look what you get:
Scenario One: "The Original"- - -
Situation occurs, or is noticed.
A: "This upset me."
B: "Given the situation. What do you want me to do with how you feel?"
Scenario Two: "The Alternate"- - -
Situation occurs, or is noticed.
A: "This doesn't work for me."
B: "Given the situation. What do you plan to do? Perhaps if I can think of some suggestion to aid you."
Scenario Three: "The Call-Back"
Situation occurs, or is noticed.
A: "You're an ass hole."
B: "Given the situation. What do you want me to do with how you feel?"
Comments
This works for me! This works for me incredibly well!